FROM THE E-MAIL BOX
FROM A SUBSCRIBER WHO MISSED US FOR AWHILE
"I have waited for too long not receiving your soul inspiring, teaching and ministering contents of AAF. This has been since my e-mail account was changed from what it was, even then I did sent my new e-mail address, but for over four months now I have not received any volume. Please re-activate my subscriptions to your valued AAF newsletter."
COMMENT: We're glad to know we were missed. We remind our readers that all previous newsletters are posted on our website
"In elaboration to the article 'I will make my own choice' may I refer you to Imago Relationship Therapy. My husband and I are currently undergoing this remarkable form of therapy (while being very active in Retrouvaille -a Catholic-sponsored, Christian-based ministry for hurting marriages). Imago Relationship Therapy leads us to become conscious of our childhood wounds, heal ourselves and one another - and thus enable growth through
the conflicts which reveal these wounds."
COMMENT: We are somewhat familiar with Retrouvaille. Ann and Mikal attended a presentation that explained Retrouvaille when we attended the "Smart Marriages" conference in Denver last July. We are not familiar with all of the dynamics of Retrouvaille, but they do have an impressive track record of helping save troubled marriages.
"I have something to share with you about the importance of choosing a Christian mate. My wife and I were both raised in the church and in our teens we knew close to 40 other kids in our respective youth groups. We are a little over forty years old now and a few years ago we made a list of all of our teen group friends and discovered something very interesting. Of those who had married someone they met at church or at a Christian college, only 3 were no longer married. In one of those cases, a younger friend of mine murdered his wife and is now serving a life sentence in prison. In another, the man decided to pursue a homosexual lifestyle, and in the last, the husband had been battling cancer and other health problems that altered his personality. Not that any of these are acceptable excuses for not being married any more, but none of these marriages were dissolved just because they decided they didn't want to be married any more.
On the other hand, of those who married outside the church, only one is still married to their original spouse, and she only got married about 5 years ago when she was in her late thirties."
I know this is only anecdotal, but it sure made a huge impact on me and my wife. Perhaps it will on your readers as well.
COMMENT: We appreciate your comments even though they are only anecdotal. There is no doubt in our minds that a mutual commitment to Christ makes a huge difference in the permanency of marriage.
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PERCEPTIONS
"S. K. Benjamin - A Corrupted Power Figure"
by Norman Bales
In the United States, we have agonized through a disputed presidential election. There's a lot at stake for the candidates because the presidency is a very powerful office. We all know that power has a way of corrupting people who start out with the best of intentions, but we deceive ourselves if we think those elite persons who gain public office have trouble managing power. It's common to the human race. The story of S. K. Benjamin provides significant insight into the corrupting nature of power. You can read it
at
http://www.allaboutfamilies.org/sh/percep200047.html
If you have questions about marriage and family relationships, you can "ASK THE COUNSELOR." Address your questions to Mikal Frazier. Her address is
mikal@allaboutfamilies.
org
Norman's e-mail address:
nlbales@allaboutfamilies.org