Just Visiting
Norman's article in this newsletter should remind us all to stop and honor those who have died to preserve our freedoms. For me, it is a time to ask God's blessings on the parents, wives, husbands, sisters, brothers and the children. They will sorrow again on Monday because the Memorial Day is a day of remembrance. Their memories will be sad ones because they made the ultimate sacrifice for me, for us. If you read this and you are one of the hurting, please know how deeply we appreciate your sacrifice. May God grant you an extra measure of His peace and His comfort.
Addendum: This edition of AAF did not get posted before Memorial Day. Due to our schedule and getting ready for a trip to Iowa for our grandson's graduation, I ran out of time. Personally, I feel we should honor all of the families mentioned above all year long.
Ann
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WARS AND FAMILIES
by Norman Bales
A few years ago, I had the privilege of spending one day in Honolulu. I chose to do two things on that day. I went to Pearl Harbor and visited the Arizona Memorial - a memorial structure built over the hulk of the USS Arizona, which was sunk by Japanese invaders on December 7, 1941. The sunken battleship is the final resting place for the 1177 crewmen who died there on that day. I also visited the Punchbowl, which is a massive cemetery where the war dead from the South Pacific lie at rest. I was shown the grave of Ernie Pyle, well-known World War II war correspondent. When I mentioned this after I returned home, people asked, "Who was Ernie Pyle?" How soon we forget.
Since Civil War days, at the end of May, Americans have honored the memories of those who died in wartime. We used to call it Decoration Day, but it has become known as Memorial Day. We'll be observing that on Monday.
In our history public opinion has ebbed and flowed on the subject of war. No one likes it. Robert E. Lee once said, "It is well that war is so terrible, or we should get too fond of it." Whether one is a pacifist or a believer in the necessity of just wars, it's appropriate for us to respect the memory of those who died on battlefields. Our freedom was secured by their sacrifice
I'm reminded that scripture teaches us to respect those who have the terrible responsibility of bearing the punitive sword. Sometimes people die in that process and when they do, their relatives will grieve long after the smoke leaves the battlefield.
The late Johnny Cash once sang about a civil war soldier, who survived a battle and then was given the burden of telling the wife of his friend, Jim McKinney that her husband had died. Among the lyrics are the following sentiments:
"The battle will rage in the bosom of mother and sweetheart and wife
Brother and sister and daughter will grieve for the rest of their lives."
We have a son who has been in the army for more than 20 years. We feel blessed because he's given himself to the defense of his country, but remains alive with no scars on his body. It doesn't work out that way for every "mother and sweetheart, and wife, brother and sister and daughter". From Lexington and Concord to Beirut, the country's defenders have fallen on the fields of honor.
We look forward to the day when swords are beaten into plowshares. In the meantime, we bow our heads in gratitude for those who gave all they could give. We breathe the fresh air of freedom because of their sacrifice. That will be something to think about as you make your way to the cemetery on Monday.
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If you have questions about marriage and family relationships, you can "ASK THE COUNSELOR." Address your questions to Mikal Frazier. Her address is
mikal@allaboutfamilies.org
Norman's e-mail address:
nlbales@allaboutfamilies.org