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Volume 4 Number 36       September 29, 1999       Norman Bales, Editor

CONTENTS

JUST VISITING

Ann and I went separate ways this last weekend (for the weekend only). She was the featured speaker for a women's retreat in Indiana. She reports an incredible weekend of praise, thanksgiving and study. She spoke on the theme "God's Greatest Treasure." Perhaps, she'll be willing to share the message with our readers in some future issue.

I attended the National Family Conference in Dallas, an annual event sponsored by Herald of Truth Ministries. I don't think I could find enough superlatives to sing the praises of the presenters. This conference has been going on for eleven years. Their avowed object is to save the American family. Maybe that's a bit ambitious, but as the old saying goes "it's better to light a candle than to curse the darkness." I think they turned on quite a few floodlights this last weekend. On Friday, the whole conference heard Dennis and Emily Scott-Lowe identify those factors that enable us to become resilient families. Ann had a chance to hear Dennis and Emily several years ago when she attended the Pepperdine Lectures in Malibu, California. She has been telling me how wonderful they are and she did not oversell them. If they come to your area, go hear them. Keynote speakers included Randy Becton, Jimmy Sportsman, Bruce Evans, Steve Thomas, Linda Gaither and Mike Trout from Focus on the Family. Classes were offered on six different tracks - leadership, marriage enrichment, parenting teens, parenting pre-teens, special interest and "Finding Intimacy with God." Tapes are available at nominal cost. For specific information about the tapes and next year's conference, contact herald@abilene.com

Norman

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FROM ENTERTAINMENT SCREEN TO NEWSREEL

THE VIOLENT ENTERTAINMENT CONNECTION

by Mikal Frazier, LMFT, LPC

"Mamma, when 'Power Rangers' comes on at the center we have to turn it off." This was the comment of my college daughter who works at a children's enrichment center summers and holidays. The children become so rambunctious when this show airs that, to manage their behavior, they must not allow the show to run. How does the violence in this children's action show translate into aggressive behavior in its viewers?

In recent years, when we have received the shocking news of our children killing children, the incidence of violence in the media and violent video games has come under attack. More often than not these children have been enacting some violence they have seen portrayed on the movie screen or they have been heavily involved in playing violent video games. Again we ask, "How does this happen?"

To begin examining this connection, it might be helpful to find a way to categorize the different degrees of influence on decision-making. A continuum can be helpful in determining this influence. On either end of the continuum, we can place the immovables. On one end of the continuum would be the children who are going to choose violence whether they are influenced by media and games or not. These children are considered immovable. Then on the other end of the continuum is another set of immovables. These are the children who would never commit any act of violence based upon the influence of the media or video games. But then in the middle of the continuum are the children who are considered to be the movables. These are children who might be influenced by the violence in the media or violent video games. This answers the anecdotal comment, "Well my son played those games every day from the time he was nine until he was fifteen and he never considered violence." That may very well be, but he would have been placed on the end of the continuum with the immovables who would not be influenced by video games.

Because of the extreme violence we have seen our children commit, many have looked at research to see if there is a connection between the violence in media and games and the violence committed by these children. Some research has been around for a very long time and other research is emerging.

Researchers have known for several years that there was a connection between the violence viewed on television by a husband and the number of aggressive acts he committed toward his wife. In one particular study husbands who viewed a violent program were significantly more aggressive toward their wives than the control group who did not view this violent programming. Certainly, such viewing would likely have a similar effect on children.

One explanation of this connection is a process called systematic desensitization. This approach is used to help individuals overcome phobias and irrational fears. They are exposed systematically to the distressing stimulus. As they become comfortable with a mild level of exposure, then a higher level of exposure is provided, until they lose their overactive response. As children view these disturbing scenes over and over, they lose the natural response of aversion. They no longer have that effect on them. They have moved a little bit closer to repeating the behaviors.

Mental rehearsal is another process which can help explain the connection, particularly between violent video games and aggressive behavior. Mental rehearsal is usually done through imagery, in which the subject takes himself through a behavior in his mind that he wants to develop. Athletes and performing artists are using mental rehearsal to prepare for events that cannot be easily simulated for in practice. How much more effective might be the practice in the mind when a child is sitting and acting his way through a video game. Studies have shown a child's heart rate and blood pressure increase while playing a series of video games.

Though there are many other factors which contribute to these "high risk kids without a conscience," we cannot deny the influence of the violence we experience through the video games and media. When we observe children spending large amounts of time with any form of violence, we have to wonder if some of these processes are not at work.

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WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING

  • About Influences on Today's Parents

    "What ranks as the most significant influence on parents? The largest was the impact of their parent's style, or their upbringing, mentioned by 45 % of today's parents. Other people such as friends, relatives, spouses - were significant inputs on parenting for one third (35%). Resources such as books, magazines, and articles were influential factors for one-third of respondents (34%). Only a small proportion of people named parenting experts. Among those mentioned most often were Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family (3%) and Dr. Benjamin Spock (1%)." (Barna Research Group. January 15, 1998).

  • About Co-habitation Prior to Marriage

    "Churches don't like to face up to the cohabitation reality. A report from the University of Wisconsin Center for Demography and Ecology says half of the population under age 40 has lived with an unmarried partner . . .. 'Living together before marriage increases the risk of breaking up after marriage,' according to the report titled, 'Should We Live Together? What Young Adults Need to Know about Cohabitation before Marriage.' Cohabitors who marry have a divorce rate 46 percent higher than those who live apart until marriage." - Judy Gross National Catholic Reporter. September 17, 1999.

  • About Marriage and the Stability of Society

    "If the institution of marriage ever falls from grace, our society will fall as well because there is no institution than can take it's place." - Utah Gov. Michael O. Leavitt - reported by Kathleen Parker, syndicated columnist. Her article appeared in several newspapers and was released on July 15, 1999.

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PERCEPTIONS

"Substitution"

by Norman Bales

One of the most discouraging thoughts in Scripture is presented to us in Romans 3:23 - "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Two verses later, Paul presented one of the most encouraging thoughts in the Bible - "God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement through faith in his blood." The concept of the substitutionary atonement is uncomplicated and easy to explain, but it is very difficult to comprehend. What are the implications of Jesus becoming a voluntary substitute for our sins? And what does that great truth require of us? You can read our thoughts on the subject

at

http://www.allaboutfamilies.org/sh/percep36.html

If you have questions about marriage and family relationships, you can "ASK THE COUNSELOR." Address your questions to Mikal Frazier. Her address is mikal@allaboutfamilies.org

Norman's e-mail address: nlbales@allaboutfamilies.org

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